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Culture Date: Happy Chinese New Year!

January 27, 2009

Greetings and happy Year of the Ox! On Sunday evening I rang in the Chinese New Year with friends and a traditional hot pot, a mixture of food shared around a table, everyone just throwing in what they like to eat. My kind of holiday.

We headed over to friends Lynn and Mike’s home for the celebration, and by the time I got there a host of things were laid on the table for us to toss into the pot over a flame: cabbage, balls of pork and fish, mushrooms, chicken, greens and even quail eggs. The hot pot became popular as a way to have a quick and convenient meal for the family reunion dinner on Chinese New Year’s eve, after everyone was tired from traveling, cleaning and preparing for the upcoming year. It promotes gathering and community, people congregating around the hot pot, celebrating and ringing in the year the right way. I was relieved, however, to note that some typical Chinese foods such as fish cheeks and 100 year old eggs were absent from this occasion.

Chinese New Year is also known as Spring Festival and is the most important of the traditional Chinese holidays. People criss-cross the whole of China to visit relatives and give gifts wrapped in red. If you were born in the Year of the Ox, you are a natural born leader, though you like to conserve and be methodical. My husband Jay was born in the Ox’s domain; the traits paint an fairly accurate picture of him I dare say!

We laughed and celebrated, stuffed ourselves and reveled in the generosity of our hosts. They always treat us as if their home is our own, and we hope that you find a way to relish the joy of Chinese New Year too.

We wish you a happy New Year, and the best of luck in all of your endeavors. The Ox is with you.

The Gulf Breeze Dream: Part Two

January 21, 2009

Hopefully you have read the previous post and have spoken your dream out loud. The nice thing about dreams is that they don’t end. The inspiration they bring creates a dialogue in your memory that continues to generate new ideas, and sometimes bring the dream into reality again.

As I mentioned in my last entry I had been working with a technology company called AppRiver (www.appriver.com), helping them to take their presentations to new heights. The positive spirit at that company is something you feel when you walk in the door, and I was called to do just that last week. I was going back to Gulf Breeze to work with people that love what they do. What a perfect match for me.

I looked forward to sitting down with the AppRiver team again, as the last time I was there the creative energy in the room could hardly be contained. When I arrived this time in Pensacola the weather was slightly cool, but a far cry from Atlanta’s 32 degrees. Even the Pensacola airport seems charmed to me, with friendly people and the spirit of Jimmy Buffet hovering close by. I breezed in and out of there in no time and headed for my hotel to bundle up and walk on the beach that had held my dreams last summer.

I had a glorious walk on the sugary sand, taking in the Gulf air, watching sea birds dive for their dinner, and being present. I dined on fresh tuna and watched the sky and clouds swirl together in a complex palette of yellow, blue and white. The next morning it was off to AppRiver for another incredible day. The company is growing even in this tough economy and it’s easy to see why. Besides their phenomenal products and services, they have a creative and generous energy that seems to flood every area of the organization. My training session was no exception.

We had a great day of brainstorming, getting rid of bullet points, and coming up with solid, unique presentations.

Everyone walked away from the session inspired, most of all me. I call this the cycle of joy. If you live and give your passion, you encourage others to do the same which not only brings results to the client, but also joy back to you. AppRiver CEO Michael Murdoch (pictured below) and the rest of the executive team are great role models and constantly contribute to the success of this incredible company culture.

I had a lot to look forward to the next morning. One of my AppRiver trainees was playing in a cover band at 9:30am for the after-party of a 5K run on Pensacola Beach. I had breakfast, then headed down to Captain Fun’s beach club to see Diamond Dave and his band Marsha Marsha Marsha rock the place! One of my other participants showed up and we had a great time listening to the music and watching Dave have a blast on stage.

All too soon it was time to pack up and head to the airport, but not before one last walk on the Gulf. Under blue skies I strolled and reflected on where the Highroad has taken me. The sun swept over the water and reflected gold light into my eyes. I stopped at several points along the way just to remind myself to be here now.

The Gulf Breeze dream continued on, and I look forward to my next return. But more than a physical place, I believe the Gulf is a reminder to be open to receive whatever good comes your way and to not limit the power that a dream can have.

In fact, these dreams of which we speak are the key to giving presentations that work, that make you memorable and cause your message to stick in the minds and hearts of your customers, clients and prospects. So inspiration is not just a nice-to-have; it is the fuel that ignites the engine for liftoff. More to come, so stay tuned!

The Gulf Breeze Dream: Part One

January 16, 2009

I’m sitting in Pensacola Beach, Florida overlooking the Santa Rosa sound and waiting for the sun to go down. Apparently you can walk out to the pier around sunset and see a cornucopia of sea critters. Being fond of critters of most kinds I’m looking forward to this. But as I type and watch the wind sway the palm trees, I cannot help but marvel at how I got here.

Today, January 15th, 2009 actually marks the second time I have been fortunate enough to be here on this beach with its sugar sand and turquoise water. I’ll write more on this trip later, but first I must share the synchronicity that lead me to one of my best life discoveries: If you put a genuine dream out there and speak it aloud, it becomes reality in a most marvelous way. Let me tell you the story of the Gulf Breeze dream.

I never imagined that Jimmy Buffett would be responsible for one of my most vivid dreams coming true. The Gulf Breeze dream started with him, a pirate, a man, a musician who I hadn’t paid much attention to before. Sure, I had heard Margaritaville playing on the radio in years past, and the song might have stirred a few Caribbean musings, but nothing like what was about to happen.

In the early part of the summer of 2008 I was browsing in a second-hand bookstore with my husband, looking to satisfy the thirst of a read-a-holic. The heat and humidity of the Georgia summer had set in, and when I saw Buffett’s book Tales of Margaritaville, my hand gravitated toward it. The theme of the book hummed in perfect synch with my overall mood those past weeks – summer, hot, laid back. All I needed was a blender and some salt.

Back at home I plunged into the book with fervor, and as soon as I finished it I went straight to the library and checked out A Salty Piece of Land, Jimmy’s perfect novel of a cowboy named Tully Mars and his coconut-scented adventures at sea. Every page created and weaved together the seeds of a dream within me. My mind drifted toward crawfish, salty air and the Gulf of Mexico. The Atlanta summer, the fireflies and a few days off work to hang out by the pool pushed me over the edge. I had been around the world but never to Gulf Shores. I had to go there. I had to live the Jimmy Buffett dream, and I spoke this aloud to my husband, Jay.

“I want to go to Gulf Shores,” I said, “maybe this summer, even if just for a few days.”

He nodded his head and said it sounded nice, but we couldn’t think of when and how. Things had gotten so busy. We were both tired and a little worn down from our schedules. Our spirits needing renewing but we weren’t sure how to make this happen. It’s amazing how life can get away from you.

The spark was lit, I believe, right then. Speaking my wish was the first step in manifesting my Caribbean-blue vision. What if I had never said it out loud? I am now surer than ever that all you have to do is ask. How many dreams are left to languish under a thick layer of dust, only because we never asked for them to blossom into reality? To make a long story short (for the full story e-mail me) I ended up with two training requests from two separate clients within two weeks of each other – and they both lived in Gulf Breeze, Florida, right on Gulf of Mexico. The best part was that I really felt that I could help both clients and have a significant impact on them. I think that’s the biggest part of the dream, helping others.

From the moment I got on the train to the airport, the trip to the Gulf was blessed and charmed. I had packed an entire factory of bricks in my suitcase due to all the class materials, so when I arrived at the check-in counter I feared extra baggage charges would top the national debt.

“Put your bag on the scale,” said the attendant.

“I’m afraid to,” I replied, but complied with the inevitable. The limit was fifty pounds. The bag weighed exactly fifty pounds.

The flight took off to reported winds and overcast skies in Pensacola, but by the time we began our descent, the clouds had parted and the blue sky had begun to fight its way into dominance. By the time we landed the sky had won over the clouds. I stepped out of the airport and smelled the salty air. Jimmy, we have arrived. I picked up my rental car and began the straight shot down 9th avenue to the three-mile Pensacola bridge, where I saw the water for the first time. Pelicans dived for food and the sun swept the Gulf with diamonds. When I crossed over the bridge, I saw the sign: Welcome to Gulf Breeze. The dream had come into reality and I grinned as wide as a Cheshire cat.

When I arrived at my hotel on Pensacola Beach, just across a small bridge from Gulf Breeze, hardly a cloud floated in the sky and I headed right for the water. That day felt like a year’s worth of vacation as I walked the white sand, collected shells, waded in the Gulf and breathed more deeply than I had in a long time.

I dozed on the beach and dreamed, but nothing was better than waking up and realizing where I was. In the evening I ate fresh Gulf shrimp at Peg Leg Pete’s restaurant and listened to a live band play Jimmy Buffett, paying tribute to the man who started it all. After dinner I took a walk on the marina where Peg Leg Pete’s and many other local restaurants kept their own shrimp boats. Orange clouds coated the skies and I looked out over the water, taking mental pictures until the sky turned to night.

The next days were filled with bliss. The Gulf Breeze clients were two of the most interesting I’ve ever had. For the first two days I worked with a family from Spain, helping them through their struggles in a new culture. We navigated through the differences between Seville, Spain and the quiet beach community in which they now lived and became friends along the way, what they needed most, I think. The next day I worked with a technology company called AppRiver (www.appriver.com), a rare gem in the business world. The leaders of this company have genuinely created a positive corporate culture where people feel they are a part of something. They have a sabbatical program , a free exchange of ideas and the inspiration around there is infectious. I formed a bond with both of these clients above and beyond the norm. Both of them were a joy to work with, each of us renewing the spirit of the other.

Then my vacation started, eating coconut shrimp at Flounder’s restaurant, listening to UB40 and watching people play beach volleyball. The skies stayed blue every day and I walked the piers, watched the sun dust the palm trees with pink light every evening, fed the fish behind the restaurants and stayed present for every moment.

Each morning I ate breakfast in a local café, and then headed down to Fort Pickens beach where there were no houses, but an abundance of white sand, clear water, sea birds and jellyfish. I swam for hours in the Gulf while fish nibbled at my ankles and I got sunburned in spite of my best efforts. I read books under a beach umbrella and ended my days with mouthwatering meals like blackened tuna, coleslaw, corn on the cob, watermelon, crab cakes, honey muffins and pina coladas. At long last, Jay flew in on Friday night, and we continued the dream together, eating enough shrimp to clear out the Gulf, swimming, visiting the Museum of Naval Aviation and taking in views of the bay.

On our last morning in Pensacola, the outer bands of Hurricane Gustav brought gusty winds, but people still walked on the beach and took in the exciting sight. Jay and I leaned into the wind and felt like we could fly, but in fact we couldn’t. Our flight had been canceled, so we packed up the rental car and headed off with the wind at our backs. The trip home could not have been easier.

What does the Gulf Breeze dream mean? To me it means that all you have to do is ask. It means that limited hope and fear of success have no place in our lives. Gulf Breeze became my metaphor for helping my clients with depth, and for rejuvenating my spirit. Whatever your Gulf Breeze dream may be, don’t forget to ask for it to come true.

Stay tuned for the Gulf Breeze Dream Part Two!

Culture Date: Dialogue in the Dark

January 11, 2009

Lately my definition of the word “culture” has been expanding. Even a person is a culture, I say, a little world of experiences, likes, dislikes and quirks. Over Christmas vacation I decided to seek out some new experiences, new cultures, as part of my campaign to pay attention to my life more closely. As year 37 approaches for me I find that feeling getting stronger, like I want to record everything. I still feel young, but more appreciative of life than ever.

Last year my husband Jay and I gave each other a surprise date for a holiday gift. One of our ideas was to go to Dialogue in the Dark (www.dialogueinthedark.com), an experience where “in completely darkened rooms blind people lead small groups of guests through an exhibition in which everyday situations are experienced altogether differently, without eyesight.” Very cool.

So we headed downtown for the exhibit, and it was nothing like I expected. As they dimmed the lights into eventual total darkness I thought I would panic, but a soothing voice come over the loudspeaker reminding us that the darkness is peaceful, and calms your mind. I relaxed into the experience and stuck close to Jay for comfort.

For the next hour we stumbled around in the dark with our guide, Richard. He taught us to listen to sounds more acutely, feel things in a new way, use a cane and most of all trust ourselves. When I first started to move around without my sight I walked as slow as a snail. I feared banging into something and hurting myself or the people in front of me; I feared the violence of a surprise clanging into a metal door. That force never came, and eventually I trusted my other senses. The darkness felt alive and my eyes widened even though I couldn’t “use” them. We went through a park, a boat ride, ordering drinks from a cafe and a trip to the grocery store. We asked our guide honest questions and pondered our own situation.

I think the scariest moment for me was when we had to cross a mock street. Of course we were in no physical danger, but hearing the sound of cars whizzing by close enough to touch you was unnerving.

I won’t go into any moral realizations that I had about blindness; after all I only got a tiny glimpse into that world so I do not feel qualified to make any grand statement. But I visited another culture that day and saw my fellow human beings differently. There is nothing I love more than having my world shaken and stirred.

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